What a Day!

What a Day!

One of my favourite coming out stories is to my mom.  It was 9:00 in the morning and I had to be at work for 11:00. I called my mom and asked if she was at home for the next hour or so.  She said no that she was going out to do some errands; I told her ok and that I’d see her later.  She asked if everything was all right, but when I said yes, she asked if I was sure.  I guess my voice said otherwise. She knew something was bothering me.

As I left for work I said to myself, “I’ll drive by her house and if she is there then it was meant to be.” That would be a sign that it was time for me to tell her. Guess what! She was home, so I pulled into the driveway and went into the house. I started to cry as soon as I walked in the door. Right away I started talking. I was trying to say it but every time I went to say what I really wanted to say it would not come out. Then she looked at me and said with her teary-eyed face that it was ok. I asked her how she would know.  She said I have a feeling I know what you are trying to tell me, but you need to say it.  So I took a deep breath and said, “Mom, I’M GAY,” and we gave each other a big hug.  Then she asked if we could tell her husband, Randy.  I said yes she could.  So she went and got him from outside and he came in.  He could see that we were crying and she told him why.  He said that it was cool and gave me a big hug.  He said that nothing would change between him and me. That’s when I looked at my watch and realized that I had to go; I was going to be late as it was 10:30 at this point.

I left for work with the feeling that the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders.  When I got to work, I was still a little upset. Then I was heading to my workstation and passed a co-worker.  She could see that I was a little teary eyed and asked if I was okay.  I just started to cry again, so I went to the locker room to wash my face, hoping that this would help and I might calm down and go back to the floor.  It did help and I got to work putting stock away.  Then my supervisor came up to me and asked if everything was okay.  She had heard that I was upset.  I said it was a rough morning and then I was crying again.  She asked what was going on that I was so upset about.  Keep in mind my supervisor has known me since birth.  So I told her that I am gay and she said, “So what?  I know lots of people that are. It’s going to be okay.”  I started to calm down and to realize that not everyone is like my grandma and grandpa (old country) and that this generation was a little more accepting.  So after I was done putting the stock away and I was calmed down, I confronted the co-worker that I saw at the very beginning of my shift.  I told her that I had had a rough day and that I was gay.  She was okay with it, and I felt really great by the end of the day.  It felt so good that I was able to tell four people in one day!   After that, it was a little easier to tell the rest of my family and co-workers.  This is the end to my coming out story with my mom and a few co-workers.

I just want you to know that there are people in this world that don’t agree with our life choices or who we love, but that is their opinion and it’s my choice not theirs!!

I have also watched a lot of coming out stories on Youtube in order for me to feel comfortable about coming out. When I am feeling down I still go watch one or two.

There are also websites to look at:

www.thetrevorproject.org

www.pflagcanada.ca

www.itgetsbetter.org

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